By Rose Goodman on ThoughtCatalog
“The love between friends can be sparked in a second, a spark that is not based upon perfectly blue eyes or a crooked smile, but on simply laughing at something at the exact same moment or catching each other’s eye and knowing the same thought is running through your heads. Love between friends may only take a day and within that same week, you are sending ugly Snapchats and insulting each other and pouring your heart out over a bottle of rosé.”
“It’s easier with friends- there’s no expectations, no need to wear spanx on every date or buy a salad when you really want a burger. There’s no over-analyzing every text, waiting an allotted amount of time to reply to a message or making the painful decision of when it is acceptable to share a bed.
From the get-go, you can be authentically yourself and there is something liberating and beautiful about that.
To click with someone who shares the same values as you, who becomes your biggest fan in a matter of days and wants to get to know you- all of you, even the scary, unattractive parts and will equally give parts of themselves back. You don’t have to force a friendship, you don’t have to worry if they just want to get in your knickers or will get jealous and disappear if you make other friends, or talk to other friends, or like a friend’s selfie on Facebook.
You can binge watch chick-flicks without being told the plot is lame, and eat a medium sized pizza each, while downing a bottle of wine and not feel an ounce of judgement – in fact, you’ll be judged if you don’t finish!
You don’t have to feel gross on your bloated stomach days, you can lift up your shirts and compare them and laugh with each other. You can turn to them when you are feeling the P.M.S emotions creeping up on you and vent to them about the same thing over and over again without being told you are obsessing.
You can be brutally honest with each other and tell them things you know they don’t want to hear because they need to hear it. You can tell them if their outfit isn’t on point or that their behaviour has been a bit shitty without them not talking to you for days. You can fight with them, say things in the heat of the moment and know that you’ll sort it out; you’ll be okay because your friendship is stronger than that. You can cool off for a few days and come back together and admit you are wrong without pride getting in the way or worrying you are going to break up.
You can survive distance because you know that texts and Skype are enough to sustain your friendship and you don’t have to be jealous of them spending time with other women while you’re not there; in fact, you encourage it because you don’t want them to be alone and you know you will always be their number one. And some days, your conversation will exist only of memes or emojis but you’ll both know exactly what the other is trying to say.
Other days, you don’t have to say anything at all, you can sense the storm raging inside their head and know that all they need is for you to wrap your arms around them and keep them steady.
Your person will encourage the parts of you you’re afraid to let shine, they will pick up the pieces when you feel as if your world falling apart and they will be the one cheering you on, pouring you another shot and taking photos of you while you’re bent over the toilet throwing up… but only to show you the next day so you can both laugh at what a top night it was, even if you promise to never get that drunk again and then do exactly that.
Love with a best friend is like falling in love with yourself.
It’s finding someone who gets the unedited, unfiltered, push-up bra, spanx free, bare faced version of you within a week, sometimes just a day and cherishes it, loves it, wants it for their rest of their life, no matter what. “